Day 30 of 100 Women in 50 Days: Encounter 1 – Unknown

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Despite my usual enthusiasm, I felt an unexpected lack of confidence today. It’s perplexing—there was no clear reason behind it. I spent the day feeling anxious about the task at hand, almost like a shadow of my confident self.

One curious aspect of undertaking a personal growth challenge is the unpredictable nature of progress. Unlike a fitness regimen, where improvement is typically linear, my journey here felt more erratic. For example, if you were on a weight loss plan, you'd expect gradual success, not the scenario where you lose weight only to gain it back temporarily. That’s exactly how I felt today—unmotivated and reluctant to approach anyone.

As I walked past numerous women I would normally engage with, my self-esteem took a hit, and it wasn't until evening that I finally gathered the courage to act. While at Clapham Junction, I spotted a brunette outside a pastry shop and complimented her appearance. She graciously accepted the compliment but seemed uninterested in continuing the conversation, leading to an awkward exchange.

After about a minute of uncomfortable silence, I made my exit to spare us both from further unease.

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Encounter 2 – Unknown

The second woman I approached was a blonde who passed by on the street. I complimented her, and while she smiled and thanked me, she continued walking away. I felt a mix of disappointment and relief for having completed my daily challenge.

EXTRA CREDIT: Encounter 3 – Unknown

The third woman was a business professional focused on her laptop at Starbucks. By this time, I had already met my two daily goals, but despite my earlier trepidation, I felt a rush of freedom once those interactions were done.

I approached her table and said: ME: Hey. HER: Hey. ME: I have a compliment and a question. You look stunning, and can I join you for a few minutes? HER: That’s really nice of you, but I can’t. I’m racing against a deadline and also have a boyfriend. ME: No problem! By the way, what’s your arm workout routine? HER: I don’t do anything. ME: Seriously? HER: I haven’t been to the gym in a year; I’m just naturally strong. ME: Wow, sounds like you’ve got great genetics! Anyway, take care.

After I left her, she resumed typing furiously for exactly 2.23 minutes before disappearing as if she were in a race against time.

Reflections

Day 30 is officially complete, and I’m nearing the finish line of this challenge. It’s surreal to think this journey will conclude in just a few weeks. I’ve mentioned this before, but it’s astonishing how much my mental state influences the outcomes of these approaches.

During my interactions with the first two women, I felt downcast, which clearly affected our exchanges. In contrast, by the time I spoke to the third woman, I was more in tune with my true self, which positively shaped our interaction.

With 30 days down, there are only 20 left to go!

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