What’s So Wrong with Ageism?

The term "ageism" was coined by Robert Butler in 1969, but it wasn't until decades later that society began to recognize its implications. In 1990, gerontologist Erdman Palmore released a significant paper on the subject, highlighting that many were still unaware of ageism and that research was scarce.

Palmore later created an "ageism scale" in 2001 that outlined various ways older individuals are disrespected and discriminated against. One item particularly stood out to me: “Told a joke that pokes fun.” This made me reflect: what if an older person makes a joke about aging, such as forgetting things?

In 2015, Palmore reiterated the importance of ongoing research on ageism. The most compelling reason? If you live long enough, you too will be affected. Unlike other forms of discrimination, ageism can target anyone who reaches old age, making it a pressing civil rights issue.

My commitment to combating ageism goes beyond personal experiences; it’s about ensuring a better future for the next generation. Fighting this last acceptable prejudice could lead to a more inclusive and healthier society for my children and grandchildren.

Waging War Against Ageism

Recently, the New York Times highlighted the urgent need for anti-ageism efforts, referencing two decades of gerontological research. According to Becca Levy, a psychologist and epidemiologist, negative perceptions of aging can reduce one's lifespan by up to 7.5 years. Levy's extensive research shows that ageism has real effects on both physical and mental well-being.

This is a critical reason to be aware of ageist behaviors and their subtle manifestations. It's crucial to examine our perspectives; perhaps it’s acceptable for someone like Zelda, who almost reached 105, to joke about the forgetfulness of older adults.

Zelda was fiercely independent and never truly identified with being "old" until her nineties. She possessed a sharp memory and a passion for humor, often rehearsing her routines during her daily walks. She would perform for family and friends, adding a delightful touch to any gathering.

When my grandsons visited Florida, I found myself worrying about their reaction to someone "that old." I needn’t have been concerned; within moments, Zelda entertained them with funny songs and lighthearted jokes about aging. One of her memorable lines, delivered while playfully turning her back, was, “The golden years can kiss my ass!”

Perhaps, like certain cultural expressions, there’s an understanding that allows older individuals to make jokes about aging. Personally, I’m still hesitant about that idea.

As I reflect on my journey and the insidious nature of ageism, my wiser self recognizes the need to seek humor elsewhere.

Revisiting Relationships

This reflection was sparked by thoughts of Mother’s Day and how aging alters our perceptions of those close to us. It's beneficial to reassess any significant relationship—whether with a child, parent, sibling, or friend. Each new perspective brings fresh insights illuminated by time and experience.

In looking back at Zelda’s humor, I mostly miss her spirit. No ideological framework overshadows that sentiment. We never discussed ageism; it wasn’t on my radar at the time. I suspect that if she were alive today and reading this, she'd also want to fight against ageism.

The struggle against ageism is not straightforward; it's a deeply entrenched issue that is often overlooked. If my words can contribute even a small part to this battle, I will feel accomplished, and that is no laughing matter.

For further insights on ageism, check out these articles:

• When Are You Old Enough to Understand Ageism?
• Have You Unintentionally Internalized Ageism?

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