Understanding the Impact of Bullying

Bullying can often serve as a harsh reflection of our own actions.

I experienced bullying firsthand, and while I won’t delve into all the specifics, it’s important to acknowledge the reality of what happened. My experience was tied to a long-standing acquaintance, someone I had considered a friend due to our shared business ventures as resellers. However, it became clear that my perception of our relationship was misguided.

In essence, I shared more personal information with her than I would have with someone less familiar, and it backfired tremendously.

While pondering this experience, it struck me that the woman who bullied me treated me as if I were a customer service representative.

We had a disagreement regarding a sale, and her frustration boiled over. She threatened to inform "everyone" about her negative experience with my new business, which was particularly daunting since I was far from home and just starting out.

This incident prompted me to reflect on how I react to others when I’m frustrated.

Section 1.1 The Realization of My Own Behavior

I don’t resort to threats, but I must admit that I sometimes express my annoyance in an unkind manner.

The day following the bullying incident, I found myself at Walmart, attempting to purchase a piece of electronics that I wasn’t entirely clear about. This initial confusion led to my frustration escalating.

The employee assisting me struggled to grasp what I needed, and I unintentionally allowed my irritation to spill over while speaking to my daughter on the phone, as if the employee wasn’t present. I never resorted to name-calling or threats, but I also wasn’t particularly considerate.

Subsection 1.1.1 Acknowledging My Actions

Was I acting like a bully? Unfortunately, I have to acknowledge that I was.

It’s difficult to accept that I displayed such behavior without realizing it. The Walmart employee was in no position to resolve my issue; her job was solely to assist me in understanding my needs, which she attempted to do. She certainly didn’t deserve my frustration.

I capitulated to the bullying and, being the owner of my business, I ultimately adjusted the price as she demanded. In hindsight, I still believe my stance was justified, but I wish I hadn’t treated her as if she were a friend.

This realization is disheartening.

Chapter 2 Title: Embracing Growth from Adversity

The first video, "The Bully in the Mirror | Miriam Laundry | TEDxEdenHighSchool," explores how bullying can reflect our own behaviors and the importance of self-awareness.

The second video, "If you're getting bullied on YouTube, look in the mirror," encourages viewers to examine their own actions and reactions in the face of bullying.

Overall, this experience has opened my eyes to my behavior when I’m frustrated or feel unjustified. I have the capacity to engage more compassionately with others, even in challenging moments.

Shaunta Grimes is a dedicated writer and educator, residing in Northwestern Pennsylvania with her husband, three remarkable children, and their pets. Connect with her on Instagram @ninjawritershop or check out her works including "Viral Nation" and "Center of Gravity." Sign up for her Substack newsletter, "Then See What Happens," or follow her on TikTok.