The Sensory Symphony of Love: How Your Body Knows You’re In Love
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Chapter 1: The Nature of Love
Love is a profound experience that envelops us completely. It is both delicate and intoxicating, and we all yearn for it. But what truly indicates that we are in love? Is it an emotion we feel or a conscious decision we make?
According to Erich Fromm, love is primarily a choice. He asserts, "Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision." — Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Fromm's perspective emphasizes that while love is a conscious choice, our senses play an undeniable role in recognizing potential partners. Our sensory experiences solidify love, transforming it from an abstract feeling to a concrete reality. They ignite passion, support our beliefs, and ultimately lead us to acknowledge what our bodies instinctively understand.
Hearing the Call of Love
"Ha! hold my Brain; be still my beating Heart." — William Mountfort's Zelmane, 1705
Hearing is among the first senses we acquire, as most fetuses can recognize sounds by 23 weeks gestation. This early auditory perception enables infants to bond with their caregivers even before they can see them. As we mature, our reliance on auditory cues continues to influence our romantic pursuits.
Research suggests that both genders modify their vocal tones when interacting with potential partners. In her article, "Is My Voice Attractive?", Edith Zimmerman observes, "If we can't see the person we are looking to fall in love with, we often will try to build a romantic illusion around their voice instead."
People often find themselves attracted or repelled by certain voices, which can significantly impact romantic connections. A study from the Royal Society indicates that lower-pitched voices are generally more appealing to both men and women. Reality TV shows like Blind Date and Love is Blind have leveraged this phenomenon to foster romantic relationships.
When we hear sounds that resonate with us, our bodies react. As love blooms, epinephrine and norepinephrine surge through our bloodstream, quickening our heart rates. So, if the voices we hear ignite our interest, our hearts will respond in kind.
The first video, Things Your Body Does When in Love | Ft. Donna, elaborates on the physiological changes our bodies undergo when we fall in love.
The Eyes Have It
"Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight! For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night." — Romeo and Juliet, William Shakespeare
The experience of love also triggers the release of oxytocin and dopamine, leading to physiological reactions such as pupil dilation. This involuntary response is linked to our innate drive to reproduce. Research from the Association for Psychological Science reveals that making direct eye contact heightens attractiveness, with prolonged gazes amplifying feelings of affection.
Next time you're with someone special, try maintaining eye contact for two minutes; you might find them incredibly attractive. Interestingly, this shared gaze can even synchronize heart rates, creating a profound connection.
Scents and Sensibility
"Nothing smells as good as the person you love." — Anonymous
A person’s scent significantly influences attraction. Much like other animals, humans communicate desire through scents and pheromones. Our attraction to specific individuals often correlates with their immune system markers, which inform us about their genetic compatibility.
Studies show that scent often ranks higher than physical appearance or personality among heterosexual women when selecting a partner. Each person possesses a unique olfactory signature, and couples with similar scent preferences tend to enjoy more successful relationships.
Tastes Like Love
"The more the soul knows, the more she loves, and loving much, she tastes much." — W. H. Murray
Unexpectedly, love can alter our taste perceptions. Research indicates that those in love perceive flavors as sweeter, even when no sugar is present. This phenomenon reveals how our emotional state influences sensory experiences, reshaping our perceptions of reality.
Just One Touch
"At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet." — Plato
Touch is the first sense we develop, and skin-to-skin contact releases hormones like serotonin and oxytocin, which enhance feelings of connection. This tactile interaction increases our desire to engage with potential partners. One study found that a simple touch on the arm could encourage women to accept invitations to dance or converse.
In the End
Ultimately, falling in love is a choice—a promise and a commitment. Yet, we cannot overlook the pivotal role our senses play in this journey. Our senses of sight, touch, smell, taste, and sound are essential in shaping our romantic experiences. They make love feel real and tangible.
So, let your senses guide you. While your mind may be in charge, it is your senses that breathe life into your romantic endeavors.
The second video, 5 Body Language Signs He's Falling in Love with You | How to Tell if He Loves You, provides insights into the non-verbal cues that indicate affection and attraction.
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