Chapter 1: The Relentless Blame Game

Narcissists often remain entrenched in their blame, perpetually directing their anger towards you. They harbor a lasting bitterness, convinced of your wrongdoing or criticism.

When you begin to think independently and make choices on your own, it is perceived as a personal affront. This newfound autonomy threatens their control, resulting in profound resentment and annoyance. To a narcissist, your independence feels like a deep disrespect, leading them to feel rejected.

Narcissists are particularly intolerant of you forming your own views, as it undermines their ability to dominate situations. They will never absolve you for holding them accountable for their actions.

When you pose difficult questions, confront them about their behavior, or seek explanations, they expect you to dismiss their actions and move forward. They trivialize their misconduct, viewing it as insignificant.

Yet, if you persist in discussing these uncomfortable issues, challenge their delusions, and reveal their true nature, it strikes a blow to their ego. This is known as a narcissistic injury, invoking a wrath that they cannot forgive or forget. The biggest fear for a narcissist is exposure; they are terrified that the truth will disrupt the facade they have created.

The truth can paint the narcissist in a negative light, portraying them as a flawed or even malevolent individual. Consequently, they anticipate that you will maintain silence about their misdeeds, nurturing a conspiracy of silence. They expect you to keep their wrongdoings to yourself, pretending that nothing amiss occurred. However, when you share the truth—regardless of your intentions—they perceive it as a betrayal. Even if you simply sought self-defense, hoped for their improvement, or wanted support from others, they interpret your actions as a personal attack, attributing their shame to you.

A narcissist will go to great lengths to evade feelings of shame. They deny reality, reject truths, and construct a distorted world that serves their narrative. They often involve others in this fabricated reality, leading them to believe that you are trying to tarnish their reputation—an idea that aligns with their own beliefs.

Deep down, narcissists might acknowledge their faults, yet they refuse to accept responsibility. Instead, they will cast blame on you for daring to confront them, accusing you of attempting to reveal their true self and tarnishing their image. They will never forgive you for this.

However, it is crucial for you to forgive yourself for your association with a narcissist. You must release feelings of anger, hatred, and resentment, aiming instead for a sense of indifference. Recognize that you were initially unaware of the narcissistic personality you were dealing with. You can now think independently and understand that you are not accountable for the misfortunes that befell you. Their mistakes and failures are not your burden to carry; they redirected their faults onto you.

While a narcissist may never find it in themselves to forgive you, you can certainly forgive yourself. Accept that you did not intend any harm; your actions were motivated by a desire to protect yourself, to do your utmost, and to assist. If the narcissist perceives wrongdoing in your intentions, that is not your concern. You cannot force a narcissist to recognize the merit in your efforts; they must first acknowledge their own issues, which is a rare occurrence. Narcissists frequently deceive themselves and others to maintain a false identity, denying any blame.

Chapter 2: The Consequences of Exposure

The first video, "Why Narcissists Never Forgive," delves into the psychological reasons behind a narcissist's inability to forgive others, exploring the dynamics of blame and resentment in relationships.

The second video, "The TRUTH about FORGIVENESS in narcissistic relationships," examines the complexities of forgiveness and accountability in relationships impacted by narcissism.